Stalking, as defined…

784.048 Stalking; definitions; penalties.—
(1) As used in this section, the term:
(a) “Harass” means to engage in a course of conduct directed at a specific person which causes substantial emotional distress to that person and serves no legitimate purpose.

Baby Daddy likes to reach out to my parents when he doesn’t get a response from me while he’s playing his little mind games. Anywhere else, and in all of florida except my case, this would clearly be stalking. There’s no reason for him to have any contact with my family or friends at all. I’m quite certain, I’d be in jail if I tried to contact his friends or family, as if I’d have a reason… But here’s an exchange being supervised by our court ordered therapist in response to my asking him not to contact my parents again…

On Feb 26, 2014 9:59 AM, “D ” wrote:
I will ask you, again, to please refrain from communicating with my family. It is not necessary for you to start any sort of dialogue with my parents when any sort of parenting arrangements should be made through myself and you, as parents

[His Response]

I asked your parents if they would like to have the girls for the evening or overnight sometime because the girls miss them. I’m not going through you to arrange that. If they choose not to than thier loss.
Goodday.

Yep, clearly that’s what I said. I’m so mean I never want my kids to see my parents again, that’s what the first email says, right??

Again, the courts and our therapist allow him to harass me and stalk me whenever he wants with no consequence, and should I say anything to redirect or change the behavior, I’m crazy…
It’s embarrassing to me that my poor life decision of marrying a psychopath continues to have intimidating an emotional effects on my family and friends. It’s emotionally draining to carry my own anxiety and guilt about my relationship, but adding to that the stress of feeling like I have to protect everyone I know from Baby Daddy is overwhelming.

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I can’t even

I realize that statement is so far from a grammatically correct statement, that it’s almost laughable. There are no other words for the way I feel right now… Ok, maybe incredulous. Righteously beside myself? I guess there are others, but right now, I can’t even.

Yesterday was a barrage of emails from baby daddy telling me he didn’t need to have two way conversations with me because I accused him of abuse (never mind the arrest and plea). Today I get this gem:

Denise,
This morning Baby 4 said to His married girlfriend “I really miss my mommy” the last couple weeks she has been clingy and sometimes irritable. Is there anytime soon that maybe you could or would like to have them visit you here at your parents for the weekend?
I know that it would mean a lot to be able to spend some time with you.

Ummmm I left the county because I’m terrified of you. You don’t get to make me feel bad that custody of our children is misplaced because of your history. Maybe she’s clingy and irritable because you abducted her and she had never been apart from me?

Irrational anxieties

It’s been a while since I’ve written about anything other than my legal issues as a result of being a battered wife..: I’ve shied away from posting about any of my weird after effects, PTSD symptoms, or anything Baby Daddy could use against me in regards to the custody of the kids… But the truth of the matter is I do have a lot of weird anxieties and phobias as a result of his actions and I don’t feel like it’s fair that they could be used against me in a battle against me. He broke me, and that deserves some sort of attention..
But I digress. I’m sitting in the car, in the parking lot of the gym, panicking. Only recently have I started driving again, since we got to Tallahassee, I avoid it. I didn’t bring my car with me, and I really don’t want it. The level of independence being responsible for getting myself somewhere is overwhelming for some reason. But Boy started working, and although our boss tries hard to match our schedules up, sometimes I have to drive. So I did it for a couple weeks and I decided I was ready to go back to a gym. One day after dropping Boy off I drove to the gym, dragged myself inside and plopped down cash for a gym membership. There was a point a while ago where the only place I felt safe was the gym.. Somewhere around November of last year, I couldn’t do it anymore. So many people, so many people who want to talk to me… So I bought a weight bench and that worked until we moved here.. I love to work out. I love to run. I hate that things I used to love are difficult for me now because of someone else. I can’t even explain why these things are so difficult. I’m a smart girl, I know this anxiety is not rational, but everyday I sit here for 20 minutes panicking about doing something I want to do.

An Open Letter to Q-106 & Country Radio Stations Everywhere: If You Value Women’s Lives, Please Stop Playing “Redneck Crazy”

I thought I might be the only person in the world with a problem with this song! It’s a definite trigger for me and I have to change the station immediately when it comes on. There’s nothing romantic, or appropriate to glorify, about stalking.

sundays, too

[source] I see I have some explaining to do. I’m going to have to admit to listening to (and liking) country music before I get any farther. As a young woman of Middle Eastern descent who grew up first-generation American in the heart of the Midwest, I often find myself in the midst of cultural identity crises such as this one. Growing up, I tried really hard not to like country music. I was too cool, obviously, in my studded camouflage bell-bottoms from Old Navy, and anyway I couldn’t relate. My mom doesn’t make casseroles, potato salads, or apple pies. She does, however, cook large quantities of white rice like it is going out of style, serve Arabic coffee in cup sizes that Starbucks customers would throw a fit over, and shape ground lamb into kafta for my dad to grill outside in the sweet Michigan summer nights the…

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Form letters and being brushed aside

Received a “personal” email from state attorney general Pam Bondi’s office today with advice on how to handle my abusive ex… Thanks for reading all the details, especially the ones where I’ve said I’ve already reached out to DCF and retained lawyer…
And any police I contact tell me I need an injunction… Thanks for absolutely nothing

This is to acknowledge our conversation earlier this week in regard to your Change.org petition relating to an Injunction for Protection you are seeking against your spouse through the courts in Seminole County. Attorney General Pam Bondi asked that I respond.

We appreciate hearing from you. From reviewing our records, I note that you wrote to our office in December 2012 concerning a similarly related issue. For your convenience and review, I have included a copy of your previous correspondence, along with a copy of our prior reply (see copy below).

With regard to your current residency, if you are in fear of your safety, you should immediately contact your local law enforcement office by calling 9-1-1. In Florida, the police or sheriff’s department in each city or county is responsible for investigating crime at the local level. Those authorities operate independently and are not a part of the Attorney General’s Office. Since your petition mentions you have presently relocated to Tallahassee, I have provided contact information for the following local law enforcement authorities:

Tallahassee Police Department
Phone: (850) 891-4200
Website: http://www.talgov.com/tpd/

Leon County Sheriff’s Office
Phone: (850) 922-3300
Website: http://www.leoncountyso.com/

For information about an Injunction for Protection which is being requested in the Eighteenth Judicial Circuit, you should continue to work with the local clerk’s office, which may be contacted at:

Seminole County Clerk of Court
Phone: (407) 665-4330
Website: http://www.seminoleclerk.org
Info on Injunction for Protection: http://www.seminoleclerk.org/faq.htm#domestic

Another resource you may wish to contact is the local Victim Advocate at the Eighteenth Judicial Circuit State Attorney’s Office for any assistance or information that may be available. The local Victim Advocate may be contacted by calling (321) 617-7555, or by sending an email to sa18.state.fl.us. More information is available on the following website:

http://www.sa18.state.fl.us/page/victim-witness-division.html
http://myfloridalegal.com/pages.nsf/Main/90514096788f88c085256cc50075acf7
http://www.myfloridalegal.com/vicdirect.nsf/Eighteenth%20Judicial%20Circuit!OpenView
http://www.myfloridalegal.com/vicdirect.nsf/Eighteenth+Judicial+Circuit/D17B93C60518429E85256882006ED662

Additionally, section 16.01(3), Florida Statutes, sets forth the powers and duties of the Attorney General. This office is not at liberty to give legal opinions or advice to private individuals. Further, as part of the executive branch of government, the Attorney General cannot supersede or circumvent the actions of the judicial branch. If you have concerns about a decision by a judge or about the outcome of a court case, please consider consulting a private attorney.

If you have a complaint about judicial conduct, the Judicial Qualifications Commission (JQC) is the independent agency created by the Florida Constitution to review certain kinds of complaints involving judicial conduct. The contact information for the JQC is:

Judicial Qualifications Commission
1110 Thomasville Road
Tallahassee, Florida 32303-6224
Telephone: 850-488-1581
Websites: http://www.floridasupremecourt.org/pub_info/jqc.shtml#Information
http://www.floridajqc.com/

Again, it is in your best interest to contact and work with a private attorney if you need legal advice concerning this issue. If you need help finding an attorney, The Florida Bar offers a Lawyer Referral Service toll-free at (800) 342-8011.

Please understand the Attorney General’s duties are prescribed by law. Thank you for contacting Attorney General Bondi’s Office.

Sincerely,
Beverly Bailey
Office of Citizen Services
Florida Attorney General’s Office
PL-01, The Capitol
Tallahassee, Florida 32399-1050
Telephone: (850) 414-3990
Toll-free within Florida: (866) 966-7226
Website: http://www.myfloridalegal.com